Jun 11

How bad do you (really) want it?

Posted By keith

How bad do you really want itOne of the biggest reasons why people don’t achieve their goals is that they give up too easily.  They find an easy excuse (or ten) to tell themselves about why it will never work out.  

At first, they run on sheer excitement.  A dream of something better.  And when they take the first step, they get a taste of being closer to that dream coming true.  

And then life throws a curve ball.  The date with the cutie from the online dating site turned out to be an awkward disaster.  The job interview that went well didn’t turn into a job offer after all.  The goal to trek up a mountain suddenly seems impossible after the first few days of hiking.

Confucius summed it by saying, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

And we have the power question to help you rise every time you fall:

How bad do you (really) want it?

Don’t just skim over that question with a courtesy, “of course I want it.”  Give it some real thought.  On a scale of 1-10, how bad do you really want it?  Hint: if your answer is anything less than a 10, then I have some bad news. 

Cut your losses.  Go do something else with your time and energy.  Ouch, right?

The truth is simple:  if you aren’t committed to a 10 when it comes to reaching your goals, then why would those around you be compelled to help you get there? 

And even more so, why would life deliver your dream if you don’t have a 100% desire to want the dream to come true?

The people who rise after they fall are the ones who reach their goals.  And sometimes, they need to fall – and rise – many times before it happens. 

It may take 50 first dates to find the right match.  How bad do you want the relationship?  Are you willing to look at each date as an opportunity?  And if the date goes wrong, are you willing to get back online?

In today’s job market, there are qualified managers who spend over a year job searching, interviewing and networking before they find – and get offered – the perfect role.  How bad do you want the next step in your career? 

Trekkers want to get to the top of the mountain, but they have to constantly remind themselves to just get through the next part of the trail.  Then the next part.  Then the next part.  How bad do you want to reach the summit?

If you fall, you need to rise.  If you want to rise, you need to commit. 

Your Practical Action Plan:

  • Write down your current goals.
  • For each goal, give yourself an honest rating for how committed you have been to date.
  • Ask yourself if you are willing to commit to a 10 to make it happen.
  • Make a list of at least 3 things you can do to make sure you rise the next time you fall.  (If you’ve thought about falling before it happens, it makes rising up easier to do.)

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